To say that life has been hectic lately for the Eddy family would probably be the understatement of my life! For the past year, we have been doing everything we could to complete our adoption, and two weeks ago we were able to bring Joyce and Desmond to their new home. Joyce and Desmond have had a very different life than we have, and EVERYTHING here is different. The food, the smells, the landscape, having a bedroom with only two people in it. Eating three meals a day, Having parents is something neither of them had really experienced for the last five years. New family members, grandmas and grandpas, and a dog. The dog still kind of freaks them out.
Our first week started off with a bang.. lots of tantrums, crying and fits from our little man. He has cried so many times for his orphanage Mama, it is heartbreaking. Joyce was very quiet and remains a girl of few words. She also has had some sad times, it is such a change, and it feels like they are almost in shock. We have been smothering them in hugs and love, and trying our best to keep calm, through the fits and crying. Desmond loves to hug and squeezes you so tight that it hurts. Joyce hugged me willingly all by herself last night, right before bed, and there it was. The love that hits you like a truck. It’s painful and shocking wonderful, and the most amazing thing, to feel that love from them. We have loved them from afar for so long, and loved the idea of them. It’s nothing like a newborn kind of love, it’s something much more messy. These kids have formed personalities and senses of humor without you, they have grown up not learning that we are people they can trust. They also have fits of rage and mourning and bad manners. We are new parents in a new way. And not at all prepared enough, But they love us anyway. I think we are probably two of the luckiest people I know. They don’t know that we won’t beat them. They don’t know that I would give anything for them, for any of our kids. but they are starting to trust us. Joyce is lightening up, and smiling more. Desmond is crying less everyday.
Jake and Carter are feeling the love too. Jake has taken to Desmond like he was always meant to be his big brother. When Carter hears Desmond cry at bedtime, he goes in to check on him and rubs his back. It’s a beautiful thing. Not in the traditional, everything is perfect kind of beautiful, but the loud and crazy, this is the life that was meant for us kind of way.
We are thankful every day for this amazing life, that God has given us.